"Be willing to have it so. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune." -- William James
This seems so obvious. What benefit could possibly come as a result of resisting reality? After all, you can go nowhere from where you are not. You can only move forward from the place your standing. To accept your misfortune is to stand on solid ground, the only meaningful starting place for a new tomorrow.
Meditations for Parents in recovery